Survive the holidays without losing your cheer

Holidays are portrayed as a time of joy, when families and friends gather for festive meals and exchange gifts. Studies show these moments can strengthen well-being and enhance meaningful connections.

However, ’tis the season to also bring on stress in many different forms—from financial pressure to grief from the loss of loved ones to complicated extended family dynamics.

Fortunately, Tonya Hansel, associate dean for research at The University of Texas at Arlington’s School of Social Work, has conducted extensive research to help us manage these unwanted stressors during the holidays.

“This time of year may stir memories of loved ones who have passed or remind us of earlier chapters in our lives—sometimes leading to heightened anxiety or depression,” Dr. Hansel said. “Adding to that, ongoing political divisiveness and economic uncertainty have made this year particularly challenging.”

Hansel offers five tips to promote a healthier, less stressful holiday season:

• Assess yourself: Conduct daily check-ins to make sure you have the required energy to successfully complete your plans and commitments for that day.
• Set boundaries: Give yourself permission to say “no” or to step away from an activity when you feel overwhelmed or are no longer finding joy in a particular activity or discussion. If you enter an activity anticipating conflict, come equipped with an exit strategy.
• Budget wisely: Create a realistic spending plan and stick to it. Choose thoughtful, low-cost experiences or meaningful gifts.
• Avoid excess: Limit alcoholic beverages and overly processed or sugary foods. Excessive amounts can leave one tired, irritable and less patient.
• Prioritize rest: The holidays can be busy and often feel rushed. Make time to recharge through quiet relaxation and adequate sleep.

Following these tips can help make the holidays more enjoyable for all, Hansel said.

And she says this time of year, riffing off that holiday tune: “It’s the most wonderful time of the year … to rest, reset and say no when needed.”